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Lauren’s Cocktail Party

Last updated: March 27, 2024

Lauren is from Washington, DC. She read my book The 2-Hour Cocktail Party and then used my formula to host a cocktail party at her apartment.

Before reading my book, Lauren had never really hosted an event at her home.

After reading my book, she had a successful party! And then she hosted more parties, too.

How did it go?

This is what she told me:

“It was such a great experience, and as an avid how-to/self help reader it’s incredibly rare to come across a book that works through your anxieties, makes a case and is actionable. Overall, the evening was a big success. At some point or another each attendee pulled me aside to say how much they were enjoying themselves. I even had two of the most introverted folks there ask me if I could invite them to the next one because it was unlike anything they’ve gone to.”

Lauren and her guests posing for a group photo.
Lauren and her guests at her cocktail party in Washington, DC.

Keep reading to see her notes, how she prepared, her party signs, RSVP page, and some party photos below.

Planning and Preparation

Lauren decided to have her first party at home on February 16th, 2022.

She picked a Wednesday night, which is great! The best nights to host your party are usually Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday nights because they are not socially competitive.

She prepared for her first party 3 weeks ahead to use the full party runway. Taking the full three weeks gave her plenty of time to invite people, make her RSVP page, build up speed, and take off to have a successful party.


Lauren had concerns on hosting at home and the risks associated with COVID and gathering indoors. 

So she made a protocol on having her guests take tests within 48 hours of the event. This was for everyone’s safety. She thought, “Better to be safe than sorry, right?”.

Party Supplies

Lauren bought the basic alcohol from my party supplies list. Then she decided to have all of the seltzers and other snacks delivered.

The night before, she laid out all the serving dishes. Then she put post-it notes with which snacks would go where, so she didn’t forget anything. This helped her to feel confident that she had everything ready before her party.

Rehearsing the Icebreakers

Lauren prepared for her icebreakers, too! This is a must for first time hosts. She re-read the flow and timing as outlined in my book. Then she set some alarms on her phone, with prompts, as easy reminders.

To see exactly how to facilitate your icebreakers, read this comprehensive guide.

Party Signs and Decorations

She created party signs for her guests to provide direction and motivation for her guests as they approached her party. 

Here is the list of signs she made and shared with me.

  • Window signs – She has these fabulous corner windows and they’ll serve as a way to spot the building.
  • By the callbox – So that she can buzz them in easily.
  • By the door – She also has an adorable small pinata that will hang out there too.
  • For coats and shoes – She has also placed a little stool by where the shoes go so that folks can easily take off their shoes – accessibility first!
  • Bathroom
  • Trash + Recycling
  • Warning signs on the room where she stashed the kittens

She also used her 7 foot inflatable palm tree and bought a few pineapples to continue the outrageous theme 😂

an inflatable tree, a cat, and a pineapple in the table
Her cat, Casey, posing for the camera with her inflatable palm tree and Mr. Cool Pineapple Guy.

Lauren’s RSVP Page

Lauren used cool GIFs in her Mixily invitation. It looks super fun! She also mentioned the COVID safety protocol below to keep her guests informed.

I’ve uploaded her whole Mixily RSVP page below: 

Laila's Mixily event

Guest Bios

Take a look at the guest bios that Lauren sent. She followed the tips I mentioned on how to write your guest bios here.

Laila's Guest Bios

Reminder Message

I’ve pasted one of Lauren’s party reminder messages that she sent to her guests below. Doing this shows that she is a host who cares! And she’s keeping her party top of mind.

Laila's Reminder message

Party Photos

Roses: What went well

Lauren shared what she observed during her party. She gave me some notes about her harmonica, icebreakers, drinks, and things she wants to do differently next time.

She’ll be typing in first person now!

  • I was really on the fence about the mini harmonica. I took your advice and it ended up being the breakout star of the night! By the second icebreaker, people had caught on to it and were watching me like a hawk to see when I’d pull it out next. 😂 The mini size also gave it a novelty factor that people seemed to really enjoy. 
  • On the drinks front, I mostly followed your advice, but ended up getting a case of White Claw instead of vodka, and it was very popular.
  • For the icebreakers, I did my best to minimize the follow-up questions.
  • While I’m so glad I followed your advice on the simplified menu, getting dressed early, etc, the hostess in me couldn’t have a party without one special Lauren only thing. So in keeping with the easy to do, make ahead vibe, I made my special Alexandrian feta dip the night before (it takes 5 minutes and is spectacular). Folks really enjoyed it, and I felt like I was bringing part of me into this.

Thorns: What can be improved

  • Delegate!

After the first few guests got here and we were in the swing of things, the folks I’d assigned jobs to left their posts so I ended up buzzing people in, showing them where to put things away, and doing the name tags. While it was doable, I wasn’t as present as I would have liked to be during the first half of the party. Plus, I forgot to grab a couple of action shots (and my gorgeous spread) which was a bummer.

  • Signage

It was clear, hilarious, and large, but I think folks get tunnel vision when they’re excited and want to join in (it’s been a long pandemic). 


One week after Lauren’s first party, she messaged me saying:

“First and foremost, I want to say a huge huge THANK YOU. It was such a great experience. Throughout the process I was buzzing about this to a couple of folks and you have a lot of fans! I’m looking forward to the book coming out so I can send them copies!

Seeing that my formula worked for Lauren makes me happy. It’s fulfilling that I made a big impact on her and her successful party.

Check out my book The 2-Hour Cocktail Party to learn more about my step-by-step guide to building big relationships through small gatherings.

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About the author

Nick Gray is the author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. He’s been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and in a popular TEDx talk. He sold his last company Museum Hack in 2019. Today he’s an expert on networking events, small parties, and creating relationships. Read more about Nick Gray here.

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