Corrections and Updates

Trends in hosting can change over time.

Certain suggestions in my book may need to be updated.

This page will list those.

  • For the Guest Bios — when including it to my party reminder messages, I include a link to a Google Doc where the guests can add or edit their guest bios.
screenshot of some Guest Bios in an email message
  • Regarding small plates or napkins: I’ve not included them in the shopping list because
    1. they generate excess trash and party mess, and
    2. they give you an excuse to stress more about food.

If you feel that you must have plates or napkins, instead dial back your food and snacks so that you don’t need them. Remove salsa and guacamole and anything that isn’t finger-food or spill-friendly.

Updates: 29 Aug 2022

Day-after email

When you say: “Let me know if I can’t invite your to the next one!” Expect that less than 10% of your guests will reply. That’s normal. I’m considering removing this line from my suggested day-after email template, but I’m not sure yet.

Updates: 24 Aug 2022

Message Day After, Asking About Invite

When you message people the day after your party with the group photo: It is normal to not get a lot of replies! People are busy. Or they don’t reply as much to mass emails. Don’t worry. I bet everyone had fun, and they all want to be invited to your next party. Keep the faith and keep going strong.

Updates: 23 Aug 2022

Even More Advanced Icebreakers Update

On page 200 of the paperback copy of my book, I listed this as an advanced icebreaker:

  • “What’s a compliment someone gave you that you still think about?”

Don’t use this as an advanced icebreaker. I now realize that this question doesn’t add much value to the room. Below are the advanced icebreaker questions you should use for your party instead:

  1. What’s the best piece of media you have consumed recently?
  2. What’s your most recent favorite purchase under $100?
  3. What’s one of your favorite secret spots or life hacks for this city?

The advanced icebreaker that I use most often is #1, the best piece of media question.

Updates: 7 Aug 2022

Icebreakers: Urgency

As a reminder: there should be a sense of urgency to your icebreakers. Especially if you are going to do three of them, which I still recommend. Most hosts are not running their icebreakers FAST enough. Never sit down for your icebreakers.

Food: Less is more (and cookies)

After talking to dozens of readers who have hosted a party after reading my book in July, one consistent remark was: people ate a lot less food than we imagined. (My parents even said that!) That being said, cookies or some sort of simple sweet snack seems to go over well.

Guest Bios: Do more, add social links

My book says “Do guest bios for half or more of your guests.” I now suggest you do guest bios for almost everyone at your party. More guest bios drives more engagement. See the recent bios that I wrote for my sister Emily’s party here as examples.

For bonus points, you can link their name in the Guest Bios to their social media profile on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, etc.


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Howdy! I'm Nick Gray. Most people know me as the Founder of Museum Hack. I wrote a book, The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, about making new friends and building big relationships through small gatherings.